My Website is a Bystander-Free Zone
In 1986 I joined Men Stopping Rape (MSR). MSR was a community-based men’s activist anti-rape group in Madison, Wisconsin founded in 1983. Our prime focus was on educating teen boys and men since it is males who commit the vast majority of sexual assaults. This I learned was primary prevention—intervening preemptively to address the problem at the source—by educating potential perpetrators before sexual assaults are committed. Educating all boys and men was necessary since all of us grew up in and live in a rape culture. Rape culture? You might say that in the past there were victims of rape but no perpetrators of rape. Of course there were perpetrators but there were multiple institutional, religious, cultural and legal mechanisms set up to allow and even promote rape by defending and exonerating perpetrators for whom there was no punishment or preemptive education.
If Most Men Were Indeed Bystanders
My website is a bystander free zone. Initially this may feel strange and unfamiliar to you. While I am sure that there are well-meaning and possibly effective educators who are practitioners of the bystander philosophy, I have little respect for the analysis which “proves” their theory. In the past, school administrators, parents, teachers, police, in fact almost all adults said some sort of variant of “Not our boys” or “Not here.”